Listening to Bridge the Divide

Listening to Bridge the Divide Our country is hurting. A deep wound – felt differently by each of us – is being felt by all of us right now. This is a wound that some have ignored, some have denied, some have felt deeply, and some have actively worsened. This wound remains so large, that talking about it is difficult and uncomfortable, and can bring out both the best and the worst in people. In many ways I feel completely inadequate to address this wound in writing. I have found, however, that sometimes the things that are the most difficult
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Quarantining and Technology

Quarantining and Technology Technology effects our ability to interact in “the real world”. The effect of technology on our daily lives has a greater impact than we imagine. It has been widely studied and reported to cause many health problems, including contributing to physical and emotional issues as well as to decrease cognitive functioning. In her book “Deviced: Balancing Life and Technology in a Digital World” (2018), Dr. Doreen Dodgen-Magee notes: “Throughout our lifespan, we move across a developmental continuum. Along the way we are faced with experiences and opportunities that catapult us forward, push us backward, or interrupt our
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Seven Stages of Covid-19 Grief

Our homes, jobs, communities, State, Nation and World are experiencing unprecedented times. Social distancing, face masks, excessive hand washing, fear, anxiety, stress, loss and anxiety have become common in our daily lives. This can be emotionally exhausting and depressing. Here 7 Stages of Grief you might experience due to the Coronavirus: Shock & Denial: “This isn’t real.” “This is a political attack.” “The government knows something and they are not reporting it to us”. “I have a right to come and go as I please.” “We can’t trust these news reports because they have a hidden agenda.” Pain & Guilt:
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Rediscovering Self-Soothing During Self-Isolation

Rediscovering Self-Soothing During Self-Isolation The spread of CoVid-19 has prompted the governor of Illinois to implement a statewide stay-at-home order.  Under this order, all Illinois residents are required to stay at home, with the exception of purchasing food, seeking medical care, or working essential jobs.  Social gatherings of more than 10 people were forbidden. Visits to friends and family members were highly discouraged. This stay-at-home order has left many people feeling isolated, detached, and lonely.  It should come to little surprise that isolation can often lead to increased levels of depression and anxiety.   What is self-soothing?  Self-soothing is a set
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Quarantine Survival Guide (Resource Post)

Updated 3/20/2020 || Quarantine Survival Guide (Resource Post) Economic Assistance IDES – https:www2.illinois.gov.ides Covid 19 Information – https://www2.illinois.gov/ides/Pages/COVID-19-and-Unemployment-Benefits.aspx United Way Economic Relief Fund – 1-866-211-9966 Mental and Emotional Health Ram Dass Meditation Library – https://www.ramdass.org/ Meditation apps offer free mindfulness, as social distancing takes a toll – https://techcrunch.com/2020/03/18/meditation-apps-offer-free-mindfulness-as-social-distancing-takes-a-toll/ Tara Brach – https://www.tarabrach.com/ Free Meditation – http://www.freemeditation.com/ 70 Free Guided Meditations – https://www.purposefairy.com/78001/relax-and-unwind-70-free-guided-meditations-for-you-to-enjoy/ List – ADAA Reviewed Mental Health Apps (Free, Paid, Subscription) – https://adaa.org/finding-help/mobile-apps List – The 7 Best Online Anxiety Support Groups of 2020 – https://www.verywellmind.com/best-online-anxiety-support-groups-4692353 Music Together At Home – https://www.globalcitizen.org/en/content/topics/together-at-home/ Quarantine Soirees: Classical Music and Opera to
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The Contagion of Fear in the Age of Social Media

  The Contagion of Fear in the Age of Social Media It seems like these days everyone is talking about the Coronavirus. It’s being politicized, it’s being joked about, it’s being publicized, it’s being denied, and we’re all obsessing about it one way or the other. The current social environment is saturated by news of the Coronavirus everywhere we look, ironically even this blog you are reading. Seeking information and staying well-informed is an important part of interacting with the world.  In times of increasing worry, conflict, or crisis looking up facts and statistics can help alleviate anxiety and is
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How Do You Decide When to Say Good-Bye to Your Pet?

People who have pets often consider their pets as members of the family. Pets have habitual ways of behaving and interacting with family members that become integrated into the family system. Families with pets both work around and work with their pets as much as the pets themselves work around and work with their families. Pets get love and care like human family members. The vast majority of pets have significantly shorter lifespans than humans. One of the inevitable experiences of pet ownership is the eventual death of the family pet. Many pet owners want pets to die naturally. However,
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Aging Parents and Emotional Self Care

  Aging Parents and Emotional Self Care   When confronted with an aging parent families often ask the obvious question: what do we do about mom? Dad?   During the process of addressing and answering a multitude of questions about how to care for an aging parent (what is my parent’s state of health, what about healthcare, housing, financial situation, etc.) is a gradual recognition of how you are personally affected; thoughts, memories, emotions all can create an underlying sense of sadness, resentment or nostalgia.  Recognition of a parent’s inability to completely care for him or herself is a difficult and
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Emotional Banking

Emotional Banking   Day in and day out we will encounter all sorts of stimuli, including our own thoughts and beliefs, the opinions or feelings of others, and specific occurrences and situations.  When we are operating in auto-pilot mode we tend to pick these things up.  We carry them around, juggle them, haul them with us from place to place, and spend a lot of emotional energy dealing with them. Now imagine with me that each day you wake up with 100 Emotional Energy Dollars (EE$).  You open your eyes, and as with any other day you start encountering all
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Creating a plan for Coping with Holiday stress

For a great many people, the falling leaves and cooler temperatures are a sure sign that the holidays are on the way. This time of year can be marked by a great deal of stress and depression for a great many people, no matter holidays you celebrate. Whether it’s because of the added pressures of entertaining, the financial prospect of gift-giving, or the missing of family members that are not around, these holiday months can carry a great deal of negative emotions for many of us. Add to that the darkening skies and shorter days, and it’s no wonder that
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